"Being a Primary Carer for a relative with Alzheimer's disease - The Long Goodbye"

"I am a Carer". There you go, "straight off the bat"sure that your loved one feels supported and is living
as they say, I write this article (the first in a series) ina full life. You can also ensure that you are taking
my role as a Primary Carer first and author second.steps to preserve your own well-being. Caring for
At present I am the primary carer for my elderlysomeone who has Alzheimer's disease or another
mother who is suffering from the advance stages ofillness involving dementia can be very difficult,
Alzheimer's disease. It is desperately cruel diseasetime-consuming, and stressful - (serious
(most are, I know) in that it robs people (by andunderstatement here). Here are some more things a
large) of their dignity and their independence at acare giver can do to help the person with Alzheimer's
stage in life when they need it most. In the Uniteddisease while also reducing the substantial burden that
Kingdom, the Alzheimer's Society claimed in a recentcomes with care giving: * Stay Informed -
survey that over 750,000 people suffered fromKnowledge equals power. The more you know about
Alzheimer's and related dementia problems. In theAlzheimer's disease or any other signs of dementia,
United States it is calculated that an estimated 4.5the better you can prepare yourself to deal with
million people suffer from Alzheimer's and that thisproblems that may arise. * Share concerns with the
figure has doubled since 1980. Further alarmingperson - A person who is mildly to moderately
statistics highlight the fact that it is possible that inimpaired can assist in his/her own care. Memory aides
the US alone, the number of people suffering fromand other strategies can be created by the person
Alzheimer's could more than double to between 11.5with dementia and the caregiver together. This is
and 13 million sufferers by 2050. Alzheimer's disease iseasier said than done I know but you have to give it
what is described as a progressive disorder of thea try. But, and this is a big but (no laughs here
brain that gradually destroys a persons' memory,please) it is essential that you realise that you are
ability to learn, reason, make judgements,probably dealing with a person who if they have any
communicate and carry out daily activities. As thecognisance at all, will be in denial. * Solve problems
disease progresses, sufferers may also experienceone at a time - A multitude of problems may occur
changes in their personality and display suchthat may seem insurmountable at the time. Work on
behavioural changes ranging from anxiety, agitation orone specific problem at a time -- you do not have to
suspicion right up to and / or including delusions andsolve every problem all at once. As the saying goes
hallucinations Although there is currently no cure for"Success by the inch is a cinch, by the yard it's hard"
Alzheimer's, new treatments are on the horizon as aand in this case this has never been more true. * Use
result of accelerating insight into the biology of theyour imagination - One of the keys to handling this
disease. Research has also shown that effective caredisease is your ability to adapt. If something can't be
and support can improve quality of life for individualsdone one way, try another. For example, if the
and their caregivers over the course of the diseaseperson only uses his or her fingers for eating, do not
from diagnosis to the end of life. Considering the longkeep fighting; just serve as many finger foods as
term implications for Alzheimer's sufferers, the hiddenpossible! * Establish an environment that encourages
sociological impact will in reality be born on thefreedom and activity within limits Try to create a
shoulders of those who will be caring for thestable, balanced schedule for meals, medication, etc.
sufferers for it is indeed a bittersweet irony thatbut also encourage activities that the patient can
those who care for the sufferers in reality sufferhandle such as taking a walk or visiting an old friend.
more than the sufferers do themselves. This fact inRemember, the person with AD is not the only one
itself has been largely responsible for another surveywhose needs must be taken into consideration. You
finding recently and that was the fact that Americansas a caregiver have needs and desires that must also
are equally afraid of caring for someone who hasbe met. First, try and find some time for yourself.
Alzheimer's as much as they are of developing theEven though this suggestion may seem like an
disease themselves. Approximately 1 in 2 Americanimpossibility, find some time during the week where
adults are more apprehensive of caring for partner oryou can have someone else watch the patient -- be
loved one who has developed Alzheimer's. Just lessit a relative, friend, or neighbour -- and do something
than 1 in 5 American adults have indicated that theyfor yourself. * Avoid social isolation - Keep up
are more afraid of getting the disease themselvescontacts with friends and relatives. It's easy to get
(17%). The real problem from a carer's perspective isburned out when it seems like you have no one to
that no two people experience Alzheimer's disease inturn to. Another way to establish contacts is by
the same way. As a result, there's no one approachjoining the Alzheimer's Association or other such
to care giving. Your care giving responsibilities cansupport groups. Talking with other families who share
range from making financial decisions, managingmany of the very same problems can be reassuring
changes in behaviour, to helping a loved one getas it helps you know you are not alone in your
dressed in the morning. Handling these duties is hardround-the-clock struggles.
work. But by learning care giving skills, you can make