What Is A Dry Drunk?

What is a dry drunk, and the 'dry drunk syndrome'?low self-esteem generator.
as it is sometimes called? It can best be described asComplacency - This is not only an attitude of
someone who fits one of two conditions. The first issomebody in dry drunk syndrome, but is a red flag
someone who has given up drinking and drugging andwarning sign of someone who is well into the relapse
not made any internal or emotional changes, theyprocess. An important facet of being in active
stay the same but the substance use has stopped.recovery is just that, being active, and moving
Or in the second case what was once someoneforward. It is not how fast you are going but rather
abstinent and on a progressive path of recovery hasthe direction in which you are headed. If you become
slowly returned to chaotic and unrealistic thinking.lazy or disinterested and stop being proactive about
Being active in your addiction sets up many trains ofyour recovery, the natural to a tendency is to fall
thought, attitudes, feelings, and actions that areback into addictive behaviors. Your re-engagement in
problematic. Simply removing the alcohol or drugsthem is just a short step away.
without changing these underlying factors will produceOnce you are lured into any of these attitudes, they
a dry drunk syndrome. The dry drunk really refers tostart to affect how you think. Once your thinking is
a condition and not the person. It is important toaffected and you start to buy into self-centered
recognize a reversion back to our old ways ofthoughts, chances are you'll engage in the actions
thinking and acting, or lack of progress in movingstemming from these self-centered thoughts.
forward in recovery.Here are some destructive patterns and actions that
The dry drunk can be a precursor to the beginningscan result from dry drunk thinking:
of relapse, the AA Big Book describes this condition1. We become restless and irritable and discontent.
as being "restless, irritable, and discontented". This set2. We become bored, dissatisfied, and easily
of attitudes can apply to anyone who is chemicallydistracted from productive tasks.
dependent, or even those were not. Here are some3. Our emotions and feelings get listless and dull,
of the attitudes common with the dry drunknothing excites us anymore.
syndrome.4. We start to the engage in the euphoric recall that
Grandiosity - Grandiosity basically means a return to ais yearning for the good old days of active using and
self-centered, the world revolves around me attitude.for getting the pain and shame of use.
In 12 Step literatures this is the concept of being5. We start to engage in magical thinking we get on
"self-centered in the extreme". It does not have torealistic and fanciful expectations and dreams.
necessarily mean that I believe I am the best; it can6. The last thing we want you is engaged in
also be seeking attention through playing the victimintrospection to improve ourselves.
or sitting on the pity pot.7. We start to become unfulfilled and have the
Impulsivity - A common attitude or observablefeeling that nothing will ever satisfy our yearning or fill
behavior of people with addiction problems is poorthe hole in the sole.
impulse control. We tend to do what we want whenLooking back at the list of attitudes and thought
we want, with little regard for self harm or hurtingdistortions listed above, it is easy to see how the dry
others around us. Impulsivity can be linked withdrunk syndrome is simply nothing more then
grandiosity to engage in behaviors designed to makereverting back to the way it was when we were
us the center of attention.active in our use. If you are starting to notice some
Being judgmental - This is a very destructive attitudeof the attitudes discussed creeping back into your
for people in recovery. When we judge a person aslife, is target time to start paying attention to the
being better than or less than, we are setting up apossibility of relapse and start turning your life in
situation where we inflate our egos feeling bettersobriety and recovery around. The dry drunk
than other people. On the other hand if we judgesyndrome is a bright red flashing warning sign for
ourselves to be on the short end we can feel bitterrelapse.
and generate low self-esteem. Being judgmental is a