'You Don't Understand.' Depression Advice for Friends of Sufferers

"You don't understand" are the words often heard…develop resentments because needs are
by the friends or relatives of a person suffering fromnot met
depression symptoms. And often they're right:…desire to be free from a pessimistic or sad
depression is a complex mental illness that cannotatmosphere in the home
truly be known except by those who experience it.…not have all the benefits that a relationship
Yet depression treatment cannot be undertakenoffers, because your loved one is unable to fulfill that
alone, and there are ways that you, as a concernedrole.
friend or relative, can help your loved one tackle5 Things for You to Remember
depression symptoms.1. Your feelings are normal: Depression symptoms
First Things First: Know About Depression Symptomsaffect the sufferer, but they affect you too.
Depression is an illness that has many facets. It helps2. You don't have to be alone: Depression is a
to understand depression symptoms and specificallycommon illness, and there are many others who also
how they affect people's relationships with others. Ithave a depressed person in their lives. You may wish
is important to keep in mind that people sufferingto join a support group and connect with others who
from depression:understand your struggles and can give advice on
…have low self-esteem and lowereddepression treatment.
self-confidence, and in turn, can devalue or lose3. It's not your fault: It's common for family and
confidence in their relationships.friends of depressed people to feel guilty or wonder
…strain relationships by self-centeredif they hold some responsibility for another person's
behavior, being withdrawn, confused or irritable.depression. Depression does not occur because of
…feel incapable of lightening the burden theyanything you say or do. It is a medical condition that
are placing on others.needs adequate depression treatment, just as
…often don't realize they need depressiondiabetes or heart disease need to be treated.
treatment, much less the effect their condition has4. Don't lose hope: Effective depression treatment
on their loved ones.exists! Psychotherapy and/or medication have been
…can become non-productive or unable toshown to be quite effective, as well as vitamins
function in their career, impacting on the lives ofsupplements for depression treatment. More than
others.80% of those who seek depression treatment feel
…may have lowered libido, which impacts abetter within several weeks.
marriage.5. Take good care of yourself: To help your
…find it more difficult to think or concentrate,depressed loved one, you need to stay healthy too!
so normal functioning in a relationship is also affected.Set boundaries and limits on how much you can and
…may resist their love one's attempts towill do, and stick to them. It is okay to take a
offer depression treatment.vacation from caretaking once in a while. Schedule
Of course, not only the patient suffers fromtime for yourself and do things that bring you
depression symptoms. Living with a depressed personenjoyment and satisfaction. This is not neglecting
can lead you to:your loved-one's depression treatment, it is being
…blame yourselfhealthy and compassionate towards yourself. In this
…feel demoralized, overly criticized or notway you will be better able, and a better friend.
appreciated