All the World is a Stage and Retirement is No Different - Living the 3 Stages of Retirement

Many young people today have two impressions ofContinuing some exercise routines is recognized as
retirement, i.e., that it will be "fun times of lazy,important to maintaining one's health, although aches
happy days and lounging around" or it will be "yearsand pains, more meds and eating less is reflective of
of sadness filled with financial and health issues."this stage. Stage 2 typically lasts 10-15 years, and is
Neither picture is accurate and creates a false senseoften experienced by individuals in their late 70's or
of what will be in store for most of us.early 80's, into their late 80's or early 90's. Sometimes
Retirement life has been changing rather dramaticallythis stage arrives earlier but rarely does it last into
in recent years. Charlie Davidson wrote in "In thethe late 90's.
Service of Baby Boomers: A Seismic Mind Shift forStage 3: This stage is often associated with how
Financial Service Providers" that retirement for mostretirement used to be viewed, a time of limited
of us can really be dissected into 3 stages:activity, with some level of infirmity and/or a greater
Stage 1: Individuals seek fulfillment and are in goodreliance on others for care and sustenance, i.e.,
health. This phase varies in length by individual orshopping and food preparation, housekeeping, etc.
couple, but typically lasts from several years to asIndividuals tend to slow down, nap more, and find
many as 15 or more years. During this stage, thethemselves living the sedentary life. They will venture
individual seeks to achieve many previously unfilledout for occasional trips to see friends or relatives,
goals. Examples include travel, time spent visitingthe theater, attend religious services, etc. Sharing
friends and family, attending or participating in sportsstories and observations, or recalling earlier life
events, theater and so forth and/or working full timeevents, bring moments of great joy. Watching TV,
or part time in an occupation that could be builtplaying cards, reading books and newspapers, mark
around a passion (like consulting, writing, mentoring,the passing of one's days. Some like to continue
or helping others.) This stage is not to the exclusionbeing creative through small woodworking or arts and
of working for a living, particularly in these toughcrafts projects. Journaling and writing memoirs are
times. Nevertheless, it typically reflects thealso fulfilling at this stage of life. Certainly happiness
opportunity to apply skills and competencies to newcan be found at this stage if one takes care of one's
challenges that will provide fulfillment to each individualself, or even if one needs the help of a caregiver.
on his/her own terms.The simple pleasures of feeling reasonably healthy,
Stage 2: This stage is earmarked by thehaving a pleasant day and communicating with friends
encroachment of a sense of "been there, done that,"and family make life worth living.
meaning that there is less need to travel orEach stage requires different funding for that
participate in accomplishing something, volunteering,lifestyle. Stage 1 requires money for travel, housing
helping others, etc. There is less a sense of having toand fun. Stage 2 requires money for entertainment,
be out and about. At this stage, the individual beginsmedical care and maintaining one's lifestyle. Stage 3
to lack the energy for big initiatives, like overseasrequires money for occasional entertainment, more
travel, lengthy walks or hikes, hours on the golfmedical care and possibly caregivers.
course or a tough game of tennis. Individuals at thisSo what's the bottom line? Life in retirement comes
stage would still continue to get out, shop at the mall,in phases or stages, but there is a consistency with
head out to dinner and the theater, attend religiouseach stage continuing to be focused on freedom of
events and so forth, but would relegate theirchoice, fulfillment, friends and family and enjoyment.
activities to those close to home. Spending timeLet's hope this is what your future holds, because,
simply talking over a meal, watching TV, putteringhonestly, nothing could be better for each of us than
around the house, reading a good book, andto experience the full extent of all of these stages.
gardening appears to make life feel complete. Living© Donald C.
the simple life seems to be the way to satisfaction.