Assisted Living is a Good Thing

The need for a senior to move into Assisted LivingBedroom:
may present itself unexpectedly. Everything wasI Full or Q Bed 2 nightstands, 1 telephone TV, video
going fine until they suffered a fall, stroke, or anotherequipment as needed 2 lamps, 1 dresser and mirror
unexpected event that has changed their ability toor 1 chest of drawers. 1 chair Bedspread, pillows, 2
live independently. You, the adult child or guardiansets of sheets.
may live a fair distance. You have a busy life andBathroom: Laundry basket waste basket 4 sets of
schedule. Their needs are now too great for you totowels Grab Handles in Tub/shower
care for them. They need expert care and constantYou will want to make sure that the bedroom closet
attention.has double hang rods. Seniors usually wear separates
If you haven't visited an Assisted Living Communityrather than needing full hang rods. If you can afford
in several years or maybe never, you are in for ait, install a small set of pull out wire drawers for
happy surprise. They are nothing like the early 20thshoes. Elfa Closet and Rubber Maid have designs that
century horrors of a nursing home.are perfect for this need. This will be an additional
In major population centers throughout the U.S. manycost but well worth it in convenience and extra
are like cruise ships that never sail - beautiful commonstorage.
rooms, elegant dining rooms, media centers, beautyThe magic comes in the accessories. I've seen senior
shops and meeting rooms. The program director isapartments that look like motel rooms and it always
much like a cruise director, encouraging residents tobreaks my heart. Don't believe them when they say
partake in a myriad of activities. Seniors can stroll orthey "don't care" and they don't want anything. They
sit in beautiful outdoor gardens, sign up for craftdo care, they just won't admit it to you. They
classes, lectures and field trips, hop a shuttle intoalways tell me later that they are sorry they
town or to an appointment or just gather for winepretended they didn't care. They were trying not to
around the grand piano every afternoon at cocktailbe too much trouble or were just being cantankerous
hour. Pets are often welcome.at the time.
Sounds delightful, doesn't it - and it is. So why doThe reverse is trying to fit everything in their new
seniors resist moving? One big reason, of course isspace. Too many pieces of furniture creates a
cost. These places are expensive and Long Termwarehouse effect and can be hazardous and stifling
Care Insurance is a new phenomenon. While we arein a small space. You can't fit 2,000 sq ft of stuff into
living longer than ever before, our pensions anda 700sq ft space no matter what you do. Less is
savings are running out because the old model ofmore.
retiring at 65 and dying by 70 isn't true any more.Make sure that their beloved keepsakes, within
Even with poor health, medical science is extendingreason, go with them. Determine what they really
our lives. The money isn't expanding at the samelove - meaning what carries memories and makes
time. While extended families were nearby to carethem happy. Some things will have to be left behind.
for their seniors, families are now scattered and fewTake what will fit on the bookcase, curio cabinet or
are close enough, able or equipped to care for aon the walls. Take all photo albums to store in the
failing elder. While you may think that a seniorcloset and re frame photos where necessary. I often
community is out of your price range,there are waysfind the photo frames to be old and falling apart.
to get financial help or even reduction in costs.Renewing them is honoring their memories. Make sure
Contact a Senior Housing Specialist for help.family photos are proudly displayed on the wall. Your
Another reason is ,that after living in their home forsenior loved ones are proud of you and want to see
40+ years, the Senior cannot decide what to takeyour photos and show their friends.
with them and what to leave behind. The choices canTry to re create their living room and bedroom
be overwhelming and paralyzing. They've beenaccessories placement as closely as possible to their
watching the auction shows on TV and thinkprevious home. Senior Communities will provide
everything they own "might be worth something" orwindow blinds on the windows. Warm up the
just have so much stuff, they don't know where towindows with store bought valances.
start.Don't forget to provide a couple of small outdoor
If you must move your beloved senior to a seniorchairs and a small table if your seniors apartment has
community, here are some guidelines.a patio or deck.
It is important and the least stressful for all of you ifMemory Loss/Alzheimer's/Dementia
you get your senior out of their home and into theirThese beloved seniors will have small rooms with a
new community before you try to sort through asingle bed,night table, dresser and chair and a
lifetime of their stuff. This is what you need to take.bathroom. They won't need a kitchen. We really don't
In most cases, senior apartments have a Kitchen, aknow what their awareness level is so make sure
living room, a spacious bathroom that canthat familiar items, and photos go with them, even if
accommodate a wheelchair and a 10 x 12 bedroom.you are not sure they remember what they are.
Total sq feet is around 700 sq ft. That sounds small,When in doubt,take it with them. They will spend
but remember your senior will be busy outside oftheir awake hours in the common areas under
their apartments with lots of activities, and will besupervision and encouraged to engage in activities
eating all three meals in the common dining room withmatching their abilities. They will be tucked in safely
other residents. The kitchen will probably contain aat night. Often, their residences are on the upper
refrigerator,sink, a microwave oven and two cookingfloors of assisted living communities where they can
burners. There will be space for dishes and a fewhave an enclosed inescapable rooftop garden in which
pots and pans There will be a small pantry too,to stroll and entertain visitors.
possibly a dishwasher. In most cases, the senior willKnowing all of this in advance will save you time ,
never use their kitchen.trouble, worry, and inconvenience. Properly designing
What to take:their closet and storage will make an enormous
Kitchendifference in how they settle into their new home.
A small table no larger than 36" diameter, 2 kitchenMaking this transition as seamless as possible will
chairs. 4 place settings of dishes and cutlery, A fewmake a huge difference in your stress level too.
cooking pots/containers, waste basket, smallIf you are unable to do move your senior on you
appliances, microwave if not providedown, contact the National Association of Senior Move
Living Room:Managers for a professional senior move manager
1 six foot sofa plus 1 chair or 1 loveseat and 2 chairs.near you. They are seasoned experts who truly
TV, credenza , video equipment, Telephone,enjoy helping you and your beloved senior make this
bookcase or curio cabinet for photos and keepsakes.important transition.
Coffee tables are a tripping hazard.