Just Blame Me

Whew!Ever feel like you got away from a client bylost it - yelling at both of us, demanding we unpack
the skin of your teeth.her items.
I am helping a family move their mother from herAs Mary went to unpack the boxes, I piped up, "NO!"
home in Toledo, OH to an assisted living home in(I felt like I just yelled at a puppy)
Pittsburgh, PA. "Mary," her son "Bob" and I met a"You're not in charge," Mary yelled back.
couple weeks ago to discuss the details for thisVery calm and firmly stated, "Well, in fact, yes I am.
project - what was to stay and be packed. We alsoI am here to help move you into your new home.
met with a moving company to coordinate theThe boxes that are packed will remain that way," as
delivery of Mary's furniture and personal belongings.I slid a big, heavy box in front of the closet door.
Mary's daughter, "Nancy," flew in from Colorado toI went on to explain that my concern is that Mary's
work with me on getting her mom's home packed upnew home is not overcrowded with items, furniture
and ready for the move. Based on conversations Iand clothing. Mary's wishes were to be honored as
had with Nancy, I was prepared for some frictionbest as possible. Nancy nodded and signed a bit of
with her mom.relief, thanking me a bit later for taking the heat
Friction was hardly the case.from her mom.
More like an explosion!Moving is quite difficult under the best circumstances.
Mary had far too many clothes, pictures, home decorMany families like Mary's face the daunting task of
and furniture for her new home. Paring down whatmoving their parent to an assisted living facility.
she had and what she needed was difficult. Early intoEmotions run extremely high and buttons are pushed
the day, I told Nancy to let me take all the heat foron both sides. In the end, the parent will be in a
what we were about do to. Figuring, I would bemuch safer enviroment and the children will have
away from her mom much sooner than her.peace of mind knowing mom/dad is cared for in their
Well, Mary was getting pretty ticked off (evenabsence.
swearing at me) for getting her to sort through herAs emotionally difficult as this is becoming, it is
clothes, handbags, kick knacks and papers. The lastrewarding knowing I am helping a family with their
straw of the day was blown when Nancy and Imother and getting her into a wonderful new home.
packed up some kitchen decor while Mary rested inHow have you taken the blame for someone?
her bedroom. Mary came into the kitchen and just