Quality of Life - Rudy's Story

Throughout the years working in the elder careSeeing what I believed to be a sparkle in his eyes, I
industry, I have had the good fortune to meet aasked, "Do you play?" He responded "my whole life."
handful of people who have positively impacted mySeizing the moment, I asked Rudy if he would play a
life on both a personal and professional level. Thesesong for me and he readily agreed. As he
"life" lessons have changed my view on my ownapproached the piano, he asked what I would like to
"golden" years and the true meaning of the "qualityhear and my request was "Some Enchanted Evening".
of life".As he sat on the bench and lifted the keyboard
One person that stands out the most is my belovedcover, he transformed before my eyes. Head high,
Rudy. He and his long time companion Helena, aftershoulders back, he began one of the most beautiful
spending the previous 40 years living in an apartmentrenditions of the song I had ever heard. As the
in NYC in a neighborhood laden with crime andglorious music filled the community, Rudy drew quite
danger, reluctantly agreed to move to a senior livinga crowd that day and every day thereafter for the
community after much pressure from both theirentire eight months he lived with us. He passed away
families. Their home had become a virtual prison,in his sleep one night. Finding a list of songs next to
complete with bars on their first floor apartmenthis bedside, that he was to play that day, I took
windows and multiple locks on the door. Neither Rudygreat comfort in knowing he died doing what he
nor Helena had been able to leave their homeloved to do.
unescorted for several years.For many of today's seniors facing the prospect of
My first encounter with Rudy and Helena was themoving to a senior living environment, the mere
day they moved to the senior living communitymention conjures up visions of nursing homes from
where I was working at the time. Quiet and sullen,yester-year. Perhaps they had a parent, other
they both appeared frightened, tired and resigned torelative or friend who spent their last days in a facility
living in "a place like this." Helena noticeably thethat was cold, sterile and known as a place where
younger of the two, seemed to take the lead. Rudypeople go to die. Convincing your loved one
appeared to be a shell of a man as he held hisotherwise can seem nearly impossible. However, look
partner's hand tightly and shuffled along through thefor the "magic" keys such as a well stocked library; a
tour of their new home.community garden; bible group; or a creative writing
As we approached the main resident gathering area,club to assist with opening their minds.
also known to most as the "piano room", I wasThis experience also taught me the importance of
somewhat relieved knowing that our tour would enddeveloping and maintaining hobbies and interests early
here. As we entered, Rudy suddenly stopped andin life, as they may be what bring us the most
gazed for several minutes at the beautiful whitecomfort in our older years.
grand piano that was the focal point of the room.