Your Aging Parent - Five Tips to Make an Assisted Living Residence Feel Like Home

For many seniors, the move to an assisted livingWhen you are considering what should be moved to
residence is emotionally very difficult. If they arethe new residence, remember to make sure that you
lucky enough to be "with it", they know that thehave a place for everything. You don't want too
move is required because they are no longer able tomuch clutter that will collect dust and get in the way.
safely live on their own. That realization is veryThere is a delicate balance between having enough
sobering and is a step along the lifecycle that is oftenof those familiar items to make it feel like home, and
not welcome. The other scenario is when the newtrying to stuff too much into what is almost certainly
resident is not completely aware of what isa smaller space than the new resident is used to.
happening and that can be just as difficult when theyAt the same time, be sure that there is a simple way
suddenly find themselves in new surroundings withoutfor Mom or Dad to keep everything in its place. They
a full understanding as to why things have changed.will feel much more in control of their environment
In either case, there are simple ways to make anwhen it is easy for them to find what they are
assisted living residence feel like home.looking for in their home. Take the time to organize
Be sure to bring along some familiar items. It mightthe closets and invest in storage solutions such as
be tempting to buy a new bedspread for your Mom,baskets or bins as necessary. Make sure that your
much like you would do for your daughter who isparent knows where things are, even labeling
heading off to college. However, Mom might muchcupboards and drawers if that helps. When you visit,
prefer that familiar old spread that makes the newtake the time to look around and make sure that
space feel like HER bedroom, and not a hotel.things are where they should be.
Similarly, while your Dad probably can't move hisAdvocate! One of the best ways to make the
entire condo into his new assisted living home, youassisted living residence feel like home is for your
can make room for his favorite chair and footstool.Mom or Dad to have social connections there. If your
Make sure to place lots of familiar and favoriteDad is entirely "with it", make sure to ask the
knick-knacks around the new space too, and don'tadministration to introduce him to others who are
forget about cherished family photos. Remembertoo. Make sure that he's not seated at dinner with
that this move is not an exciting time for yourthree people who are in various states of memory
parent, and is probably not something he or she isloss, as that is a sure way for him to dislike his new
looking forward to, even if she recognizes itssurroundings. On the other hand, if your Mom has
necessity.some memory issues but is still physically very active,
Decorate the new space so that it doesn't look orbe sure to request that she not be seated that first
feel institutional or generic. Many assisted livingnight with a group who are all mobility impaired. I
communities will allow a new resident to specify apromise that if you do, she'll notice and tell you that
paint color at no charge, or will allow you to have theeveryone else is "too old" for her to socialize with. In
space painted a non-standard color as long as youshort, as with any other transition, it's important that
leave a deposit to cover the repainting later on.your parent immediately finds a few people with
Warm colors on the walls will help make the newwhom he or she can relate, who are "just like them".
space feel cozy. Likewise, be sure to bring anyThis will make the move into assisted living go much
favorite wall art or lamps along, and don't hesitate tomore smoothly for all.
have some window treatments made up. They are©2009 LifeBridge Solutions, LLC. All rights
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customizing a space.