Eating Disorders and the Narcissist

Patients suffering from eating disorders binge onstage, he is unable to differentiate his own feelings
food and sometimes are both anorectic and bulimic.and needs from those of others. His cognitive and
This is an impulsive behaviour as defined by the DSMperceptual distortions (for instance, regarding body
(particularly in the case of BPD and to a lesser extentimage - somatoform disorders) only increase his
of Cluster B disorders in general). Some patientsfeeling of personal ineffectiveness and his need to
develop these disorders as a way to self-mutilate. Itexercise even more self-control (on his diet, the only
is a convergence of two pathological behaviours:thing left).
self-mutilation and an impulsive (rather, compulsive orThe patient does not trust himself in the slightest. He
ritualistic) behaviour.is his worst enemy, a mortal enemy, and he knows
The key to improving the mental state of patientsit. Therefore, any efforts to collaborate with HIM
with dual diagnosis (a personality disorder plus anagainst his disorder - are perceived as collaboration
eating disorder) lies in concentrating upon their eatingwith his worst enemy against his only mode of
and sleeping disorders.controlling his life to some extent.
By controlling their eating disorders, patients assertThe patient views the world in terms of black and
control over their lives. This is bound to reduce theirwhite, of absolutes. So, he cannot let go even to a
depression (even eliminate it altogether as a constantvery small degree. He is HORRIFIED - constantly. This
feature of their mental life). This is likely to ameliorateis why he finds it impossible to form relationships: he
other facets of their personality disorders. Here is themistrusts (himself and by extension others), he does
chain: controlling one's eating disorders controllingnot want to become an adult, he does not enjoy
one's life enhanced sense of self-worth,sex or love (which both entail a modicum of loss of
self-confidence, self-esteem a challenge, an interest,control). All this leads to a chronic absence of
an enemy to subjugate a feeling of strengthself-esteem. These patients like their disorder. Their
socialising feeling better.eating disorder is their only achievement. Otherwise
When a patient has a personality disorder and anthey are ashamed of themselves and disgusted by
eating disorder, the therapist should concentrate ontheir shortcomings (expressed through shame and
the eating disorder. Personality disorders are intricatedisgust directed at their bodies).
and intractable. They are rarely curable (thoughThere is a chance to cure the patient of his eating
certain aspects, like OCD, or depression can bedisorders (though the dual diagnosis of eating disorder
ameliorated with medication). Their treatment calls forand personality disorder has a poor prognosis). This -
the enormous, persistent and continuous investmentand ONLY this - must be done at the first stage. The
of resources of every kind by everyone involved.patient's family should consider therapy AND support
From the patient's point of view, the treatment ofgroups (Overeaters Anonymous). Recovery
her personality disorder is not an efficient allocationprognosis is good after 2 years of treatment and
of scarce mental resources. Also personality disorderssupport. The family must be heavily involved in the
are not the real threat. If a patient with a personalitytherapeutic process. Family dynamics usually
disorder is cured of it but her eating disorders arecontribute to the development of such disorders.
aggravated, she might die (though mentally healthy)...Medication, cognitive or behavioural therapy,
An eating disorder is both a signal of distress ("I wishpsychodynamic therapy and family therapy ought to
to die, I feel so bad, somebody help me") and ado it.
message: "I think I lost control. I am very afraid ofThe change in the patient IF the treatment of his
losing control. I will control my food intake andeating disorders is successful is VERY MARKED. His
discharge. This way I control at least ONE aspect ofmajor depression disappears together with his
my life."sleeping disorders. He becomes socially active again
This is where we can and should begin to help theand gets a life. His personality disorder might make it
patient. Help him to regain control. The family ordifficult for him - but, in isolation, without the
other supporting figures must think what they can doexacerbating circumstances of his other disorders, he
to make the patient feel that he is in control, that hefinds it much easier to cope with.
manages things his own way, that he is contributing,Patients with eating disorders may be in mortal
has his own schedules, his own agenda, matter.danger. Their behaviour is ruining their bodies
Eating disorders indicate the strong combined activityrelentlessly and inexorably. They might attempt
of an underlying sense of lack of personal autonomysuicide. They might do drugs. It is only a question of
and an underlying sense of lack of self-control. Thetime. Our goal is to buy them time. The older they
patient feels inordinately, paralysingly helpless andget, the more experienced they become, the more
ineffective. His eating disorders are an effort totheir body chemistry changes with age - the better
exert and reassert mastery over his own life. At thistheir prognosis.