| Hi | | | | going to court. |
| | | | |
| I'm Father Dave. | | | | Going to court is like turning pro as a |
| | | | boxer. There's no route back. |
| I'm a tough guy. | | | | |
| | | | Unfortunately, courts don't look for mutually |
| I've boxed professionally. | | | | beneficial solutions. They look to give one |
| | | | party victory over the other party. It's the |
| I've kicked and wrestled with the best of | | | | nature of our legal system. It's a |
| them. | | | | conflict-based system. It's a sort of |
| | | | sophisticated brawl, where one party does |
| Yes, it's me | | | | everything it can (within the rules) to |
| | | | utterly destroy the other party. |
| In fact I've been punched, kicked, choked, | | | | |
| cut, bitten, had my joints 'popped' and, on | | | | I don't know whose idea it was to develop our |
| one occasion, even had my bones snapped in | | | | legal system this way. One can imagine that |
| fights and, for the most part, I've been able | | | | there must be any number of ways to set up a |
| to push through the pain and laugh if all off | | | | system of jurisprudence, such that the goal |
| (the bone-snapping incident being somewhat of | | | | of any family court hearing is to uncover |
| an exception), | | | | what are the most helpful options for |
| | | | everybody involved. I suspect that more |
| Even so, I'm a tough guy, and yet there's one | | | | enlightened societies do run their legal |
| area of life where every blow I receive | | | | system this way. We don't. Our system is |
| knocks me to the ground. It's the battle for | | | | essentially a stoush, with two opponents |
| my kids. | | | | entering the ring and only one emerging, and |
| | | | it's a far more bloody and painful stoush. |
| I've been divorced. | | | | than anything you see take place in a boxing |
| | | | ring! |
| The separation was not amicable. | | | | |
| | | | Anyway, my point is that if you know enough, |
| I struggled (initially) to get access to my | | | | you can avoid the legal battle-room. |
| daughter. | | | | |
| | | | If you can gain an understanding of your |
| And yes, I contemplated suicide ... | | | | rights, your obligations, the nature of |
| regularly. | | | | family law, and the way in which men are |
| | | | dealt with in the family court system, you |
| If you're a bloke who's been through this | | | | can generally predict pretty accurately what |
| sort of thing, you know exactly what I am | | | | your chances in court are, without ever |
| talking about. Guys who have never been | | | | having to go there. This will save you a LOT |
| through it generally have no idea what you're | | | | of money. And, more importantly, it will save |
| going through, and we don't help them | | | | you from ever having to get into a |
| understand either, as we men have been | | | | gloves-off, no-rules, bite-and-scratch, |
| genetically pre-programmed NOT to talk about | | | | do-or-die, brawling bloodfest with your ex. |
| stuff that doesn't involve a football! | | | | |
| | | | I don't think I need to say any more about |
| And I'm not going to break the mould here | | | | this. But I will recommend to you the one |
| either and continue eulogising about the pain | | | | resource that I've come across that can equip |
| of it all. Instead, I'm simply offering you | | | | you with the sort of knowledge that you need |
| the three most important things I learnt | | | | if you're going to keep to the three golden |
| through my battles: | | | | rules as outlined above. It's an ebook |
| | | | called, "Custody Secrets". |
| 1. Don't go to court. | | | | |
| | | | Indeed, I've got more than just the book to |
| 2. Don't go to court. | | | | show you today, I've got a video review from |
| | | | a girl named, Samantha, who probably sounds a |
| 3. Find out everything you can about your | | | | lot like the ex-Mrs, and has all the charm of |
| situation - where you stand ethically and | | | | a used-car salesman. But if you can get over |
| legally - and use this knowledge to avoid | | | | that, you may enjoy it. |