| Hi | | | | the other party. It's the nature of our legal system. |
| I'm Father Dave. | | | | It's a conflict-based system. It's a sort of |
| I'm a tough guy. | | | | sophisticated brawl, where one party does |
| I've boxed professionally. | | | | everything it can (within the rules) to utterly destroy |
| I've kicked and wrestled with the best of them. | | | | the other party. |
| Yes, it's me | | | | I don't know whose idea it was to develop our legal |
| In fact I've been punched, kicked, choked, cut, | | | | system this way. One can imagine that there must |
| bitten, had my joints 'popped' and, on one occasion, | | | | be any number of ways to set up a system of |
| even had my bones snapped in fights and, for the | | | | jurisprudence, such that the goal of any family court |
| most part, I've been able to push through the pain | | | | hearing is to uncover what are the most helpful |
| and laugh if all off (the bone-snapping incident being | | | | options for everybody involved. I suspect that more |
| somewhat of an exception), | | | | enlightened societies do run their legal system this |
| Even so, I'm a tough guy, and yet there's one area | | | | way. We don't. Our system is essentially a stoush, |
| of life where every blow I receive knocks me to the | | | | with two opponents entering the ring and only one |
| ground. It's the battle for my kids. | | | | emerging, and it's a far more bloody and painful |
| I've been divorced. | | | | stoush. than anything you see take place in a boxing |
| The separation was not amicable. | | | | ring! |
| I struggled (initially) to get access to my daughter. | | | | Anyway, my point is that if you know enough, you |
| And yes, I contemplated suicide ... regularly. | | | | can avoid the legal battle-room. |
| If you're a bloke who's been through this sort of | | | | If you can gain an understanding of your rights, your |
| thing, you know exactly what I am talking about. | | | | obligations, the nature of family law, and the way in |
| Guys who have never been through it generally have | | | | which men are dealt with in the family court system, |
| no idea what you're going through, and we don't help | | | | you can generally predict pretty accurately what |
| them understand either, as we men have been | | | | your chances in court are, without ever having to go |
| genetically pre-programmed NOT to talk about stuff | | | | there. This will save you a LOT of money. And, more |
| that doesn't involve a football! | | | | importantly, it will save you from ever having to get |
| And I'm not going to break the mould here either and | | | | into a gloves-off, no-rules, bite-and-scratch, do-or-die, |
| continue eulogising about the pain of it all. Instead, I'm | | | | brawling bloodfest with your ex. |
| simply offering you the three most important things I | | | | I don't think I need to say any more about this. But I |
| learnt through my battles: | | | | will recommend to you the one resource that I've |
| 1. Don't go to court. | | | | come across that can equip you with the sort of |
| 2. Don't go to court. | | | | knowledge that you need if you're going to keep to |
| 3. Find out everything you can about your situation - | | | | the three golden rules as outlined above. It's an |
| where you stand ethically and legally - and use this | | | | ebook called, "Custody Secrets". |
| knowledge to avoid going to court. | | | | Indeed, I've got more than just the book to show |
| Going to court is like turning pro as a boxer. There's | | | | you today, I've got a video review from a girl |
| no route back. | | | | named, Samantha, who probably sounds a lot like the |
| Unfortunately, courts don't look for mutually beneficial | | | | ex-Mrs, and has all the charm of a used-car salesman. |
| solutions. They look to give one party victory over | | | | But if you can get over that, you may enjoy it. |